It's always great fun to do a segment with Rachael Ray & we both hope the material on defending your reputation and combating CyberBullies is helpful. She was gracious enough to dedicate the entire first half hour of today's program to the issues. Here are some related notes.
Consider your online identity your credit score for the 21st century. Mistakes can cost you. The stuff you put out there or risk having put out there by friends or friends of friends is kind of like a tattoo. It has a certain staying power ... But just as tattoo removal has become popular, so has cleaning up ones digital dirt. Here's how, plus some ways to avoid rolling in the mud in the first place ...
1) Look in the virtual mirror.
Google Alerts
It's a good idea to "Google" yourself periodically to see what pops up. The easiest way to do this is to set up "Google Alerts." You will receive an email as soon as your search phrase (like your name or company) enters Google's index. Google Alerts cover news stories, video comments, blogs, pages found in web searches, etc.
And if you want to see what might have been out there and is still traceable, use this amazing little tum-back-time "Wayback" machine - Internet Archive.
HR Professionals Search Online Profiles Before Making Hiring Decisions:
If you are interviewing for a new job, be prepared to be "Googled." Prospective employers are taking a close look at you. A recent poll of hiring managers (conducted by Harris Interactive) shows the majority of them Google prospective candidates prior to interviews, so consider removing that spring break photo slideshow.
2) Once it's out there (online), you can't get it back.
It doesn't matter where you've posted it – MySpace, Facebook, YouTube – once it's out there, you can't get it back, because you don't know who grabbed and is storing it. Though most social-networking sites make it possible for users to make their page "private," so they can roster in their friends or classmates vs. allowing any registered user to view their page, this is by no means fool proof, especially when you have 500 or 5000 so-called "friends" on your page ... Your "private" information won't be "private" for long. The Internet is a very public place. Those photos or words of wisdom you thought you shared with a few close friends, could be off and running online in no time.
3) Getting Help Cleaning up Your Digital Dirt
ReputationDefender.com
If you've screwed up or someone has posted negative/unflattering stuff and it's on the front page of Google, you can employ services like "Reputation Defender." I spoke with the Founder & CEO Michael Fertik. Smart guy & terrific concept. They'll wrestle stuff to the ground/white it out on your behalf. For as little as $10, they'll dig through clients' Internet profiles and show them how they appear online. If you see something you don't like, Reputation Defender will contact whomever controls the web page and request they delete the material.
4) Take Control: Register "YourName.com" (or .Net, .Info, .Org, .Name, etc.)
One of the single best ways to make sure an online search of your name returns results for a web site which you control, is to register the "yourname.com" domain. It will cost you a few bucks monthly or annually, but it's money well spent when it comes to having a say in what turns up in an online search of your name.
Being personally findable online is important, particularly when it comes to your career. Claiming one stationary place in cyberspace can also serve as a jumping off point to other web pages, social-networking sites or online forums you are a part of (if you wish, you can provide links to those).
Increasingly, it's not unusual to be asked for your URL if you're applying for anything remotely connected to the tech, arts or advertising industry. Universities are steering students in this direction too, so they'll have a virtual portfolio when they need it. Creating your own URL is a $10 issue. www.godaddy.com or www.networksolutions.com.
Setting up a blog is also a way to showcase your writing skills, and adding content regularly bumps you up in Google searches. "Digg-ing" your own posts is considered bad manners and if you get caught(and there's lots of smart people on the Internet), you can get "cyber-punished." Best to play it straight. Be authentic & be willing to put your name against anything you write. Anonymous posts seem to be behind a lot of what turns sour.
5) Do the little things right.
Whether you're looking for a new job or just networking online – maybe to generate some sales leads – doing the little things right, counts.
* Make sure your email has a signature, so people know how to reach you if they decide to jump at the chance. Plaxo will provide active users signature templates that can include photographs, company logos and links to Web sites. LinkedIn, another networking service, has a signature that includes a link to your LinkedIn bio. Whichever way you go, it's best to keep it simple.
* Email your resume -- or any important document -- to yourself first. It's the best way to know how it looks on the receiving end.
* Don't spam people. If they don't respond to your email, resend it, but don't be aggressive. A quick little ... "In case you didn't receive. Don't mean to badger. Point me in the right direction if you can." Personally, I wouldn't send it a third time. After the second attempt, you probably have your answer.
* Use an appropriate email address. You can go the extra mile and create an impressive one ... If it's intuitive (easy to remember), bonus. You can create your own email address. www.domains.aol.com




Comments
Great advice, not only for recent college grads, but also for the rest of us. I've shared this with the college students I speak with.
One thing I can't stress enough for college juniors and seniors is to get that LinkedIn profile setup. It's a more professionally-oriented service, so some students don't see the immediate relevance. But I remind them that they all know friends who've graduated and are working in a profession. The students have a built-in professional network and sometimes they don't even know it!
I have tried all of these things to get my cyber stalker to stop, unfortunately none of them worked. This woman Rose Marie Zizzo has been after me for 6 years posting lies about me, my friends, and anyone she thinks knows me on her own websites located here
B-PCB.info,
CAT-BUYERS- BEWARE.INFO,
bad-cat-breeders.info,
cat-breeders-complaints.info,
teacup-persian-cattery.info/
mysite.verizon.net/cfb6
pedigree-cat-buyer-alert.info
trinket-persian-cattery.info
catinality-cattery.info
persian-dream-catcher-cattery.info
pedigree-cat-buyers-public-alert.info (another new one)
www.catfancyonline.com/dcd.html
www.catfancyonline.com/index.html
www.persian-cats-usa.com/
lollimops-cattery.info
and hundreds of online chat boards, complaint boards, blogs and online news feeds.
I have written to Godaddy.com in reference to her copyright theft, her stealing my photos, graphics, and articles along with my copyrighted cattery name, they say they are not responsible for making the decisions as to whether or not her content, which is in violation of their TOS, is defamatory, abusive, libelous, harmful, or anything else. I am convinced that we need laws to be able to hold these providers accountable!
This woman has destroyed my business and those of my friends, I have sued her but she still continues posting her garbage everywhere. Six years now, six ling years of putting up with her lies, libel and stalking abuse.
I also have over 300 emails from her threatening me with mobsters she claims to know, ruination, extortion, wishing that I would die, and all kinds of horrible things.
I am not the only one abused on her websites, but I have been her main target. There are some 40 others she abuses, and this is not all she has done, she has written letters to my neighbors telling them to call th police on me, animal control and every other government agency she can think of, places she has already reported me to many times.
Feel free to type my name into google, and go here to read about all the things she has done to me
http://pedigree-cbs.org.
We need congress to pass new laws!!! This is life changing, life damaging!
Please feel free to contact me.
thanks
Melanie
Buyers Warning About:
Breeder: Melanie Lowry
Cattery: Lollimops Himalayans & Persians Reg. CFA Cattery # 138835
Address: 942 Stanley Avenue
City: Escondido, Ca 92026
Phone: 760-755-7189, 760-300-3270, 760-737-7411
Dis-satisfied Buyer: Kristi Kortmeyer, Phoenix Arizona
Date: 2/5/03
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PAST buyer very dis-satisfied sharing about buying from LOLLIMOPS
My Experience
In 2002 and 2003 I received 3 kitties total:
1. One with FIP that died
2. one that tested positive for FeLV,
3. and the third kitten was sick with URI and ringworm
but is currently healthy and happy :)
Hello... I'd love to check out your site. I have had bad experiences with Melanie Lowry and as an inexperienced breeder, I wasn't sure how to handle it or her, so after many emails and phone calls with her, I finally let it go.... Today I thought I'd Google her name to see if I could find anyone who fallen to her as well. Unfortunately, I wasn't at all surprised to find more HORRIFIC stories similar to mine. I'm sure there are more out there...
I have not filed any complaints against her and there really isn't anything I would accept as a compromise from Melanie at this point in time... but I would like to help the INNOCENT by letting them know that they should ABSOLUTELY avoid Melanie like the PLAGUE.
My children had a very difficult time and struggled after I received 2 sick kittens from her, 1 which died from FIP and the other which tested positive for FELV ... thank goodness I knew to isolate from my other cats until tested or it could have been much worse...
It looks as if Melanie is an EVIL EVIL person who cares only about money and nothing about her cats or the people/families that she's affected.
I see that she has moved from the house on the hill- I was only allowed to step foot in her living room, but have a feeling that behind her bedroom door there were far more than the 15 cats she allowed me to see in her living room and caged in her tiny kitchen....I have moved on... but, I would be willing to share my experience on your site. Thank you, Kristi Kortmeyer, Phoenix, Arizona
Melanie Lowry is a storyteller who is desperately trying to salvage her reputation, which has been DEVASTATED by her eagerness to sell unhealthy kittens to innocent people. Melanie's response is a bunch of falsehoods. If all of Melanie's so called "Facts" were true, then I would've been quite a happy customer, right?! In fact, if her "Facts" were true, wouldn't I be supporting her instead of this website? I have nothing to gain by discrediting Melanie. I am embarrassed for her.
She obviously has a problem with reality- she now has 7 separate instances where former customers have been swindled and/or deceived by her. Could it be a coincidence that we have similar complaints? Doubtfull.And I'm quite certain there are many more customer's with unfortunate stories who haven't yet discovered the B-PCB.INFO website.
In sharing my experience I only hope that:
a). others will come forward and
b). that my story can save at least ONE person from being her next prey.
Following this email I will not respond, refute, or entertain ANY of Melanie's additional STORIES. I've told the truth as it was. Shame on you, Melanie!
There are MANY notable, reputable breeders who truly CARE about the health and future of their cats and Melanie Lowry is not one of them. I wish CBC.INFO the best of luck in your efforts to stop corrupt breeders from taking advantage of the trusting public and from medically neglecting precious kittens! You ladies are brave and I wish you much success!"
Letter to Melanie Lowry AKA Annie Westlake
Published by a Concerned Cat Lover on 5/23/08
Chocolate & Lilac Lovers BEWARE:
Anyone seeking these beautiful colors should BEWARE of the town crier, also known as Melanie Lowry, also know as Annie Westlake. These are just a few of the names that she uses to practice the ultimate deception!
I have sat as an observer and watched this all unfold and a few simple questions come to mind:
1.) HOW can you Ms. Lowry claim to be such a "victim" and claim to have "lost your cattery business/income" when YOU are the very person who has led many people to your unhappy customer's site to read about you. Good grief woman, do you think that anyone in their right mind would want to buy from you after you yourself lead them to a site that airs all of your own dirty laundry? It is very clear that you are only interested in "the fight" and playing the victim rather than to have a healthy cattery. Afterall, why ELSE would you do this? Rose Marie is not the only person who was interested in breeding these rare colors that has fallen for your manipulating lies. She might be the only one that has a website to warn others about you, but she is not alone in her opinion of you, not by a long shot.
2.) How many newbie's have you, Ms. Lowry/Westlake, promised "show quality" and then sent them a problem animal or one with no papers? Do you fail to provide papers because your name is now mud? WHY would you treat people who were kind to you inspite of all the warnings not to be, like dirt? Just like the story of the Scorpion and the Frog, you can't help yourself because it is your nature, even to your own demise. And do you think that just because a Persian/Himalayan has an extreme face that it makes it "show quality"?? Are you not aware of all the other factors in a "Show Cat"?? Perhaps if you had stopped fighting and suing your unhappy customers long enough to concentrate on the animals then so much of the things that you are accused of wouldn't be true?? But, they are, and that is why you won't let visitors come into your home. More than one, more than two, actually three different people who don't care for each other at all, have the same opinion in common of you and the environment that your cats are in.
3.) WHY would there be a chocolate-persian site with 2 hidden pages?? If you haven't done anything wrong, then why in the world are these pages hidden? Who in their right mind would trust anything on that site?? Or pay a fee to use it???
Perhaps it is early dementia setting in that would make you think that what you are doing is okay or right in any way shape or form. You have the "tainted touch", everything and everyone that you come in contact with ends up tainted from it. You found a way to get attention through Rose Marie's site and you have fed from it and used other people's kindness and exploited and manipulated for your own benefit. You are a "perpetual victim", that is what you live for. Your greatest mistake is that you have mistaken kindness for weakness. You are always claiming to be "getting out of cats", well, PLEASE DO!!
Ms Lowry delivered the Kitten to me in Temecula California, on the drive home to Azusa it was so obvious that the Kitten had some problems with her eyes.
I immediatly took the Kitten to my Vet. After I got her home I found that she is one of the mose aggressive cats I have ever been around, she would jump at my face, legs & arms, biting & scratching, I covered my face when I slept. I have had her since 5/4/04 & this aggression has not changed.
I contacted another Breeder & when I explained this to Ms. Lowry she became very upset with me, telling me that I had no right to do this, that this business was a small one & the word would get out!
I asked her why this cat was so aggressive, she stated 'Oh, I though I breed that out of her! My Vet had never heard of such a thing.
In trying to contact Ms Lowry I have had mail sent to her returned with no forwarding address.
I feel so mislead by this woman.
Toni
Azusa, California
Questions for Melanie Lowry of Lollimops cattery
3/14/05 7:48:31 PM
Questions for breeder. Melanie:
I am assuming you are the breeder in the above complaint. I have some questions for you. Are you, as a breeder and business owner, saying that you intend to keep all deposits without ever returning monies paid for your kittens? If you are in fact saying this then you have terrible business ethics.
As mentioned above, my mother and I have had many champion breed animals in our homes over the years. My mother had a kitten all the way from Belgium, Germany once. We worked through the money conversion and shipping to ensure a smooth transaction. We have both bought champion breed dogs. My mother has waited as high as six months and more for a particular pup. She prefers chosing pups before they are weaned from their mom. One she wanted and had placed a deposit on did not make it.
Did our breeder take her deposit? No. She offered to either refund the deposit or let my mother choose from another litter or wait until those parents were bred again. My mother waited several months before picking out her puppy.
Never once did our breeder try to pull one over on her. This is the difference between quality breeders and those that are say... morally questionable. I have no idea where you get the idea that breeders can just take people's money in any fashion they want. This is a horrid way to do business.
You must not get a lot of repeat business. If I were in the market for a champion-bred kitten, your business would not make the list. It is not because of the initial complaint. It is solely on the basis of your response. Refusing deposits is just bad business.
I am fully aware of how businesses run from the perspective of the buyer and the seller. I have six years of college in accounting and business, fifteen years keeping a business going, and an additional five years working for a large corporation in the contractor department.I had my own business for six years prior to learning I was going blind.
The least you could do is give back 90 percent of the deposit, keeping 10 percent for your time and administrative costs. This, at the least, would make you sound more reputable. As it stands now, I could not recommend you as a breeder.
3/14/05 Samantha -
Selma, North Carolina U.S.A.
Melanie Lowry of Lollimop's owes 3 past buyer's $2,781.00
I paid $1,300.00 to Melanie Lowry of Lollimops Cattery for a Chocolate Tortie Point female
I paid $237.00 for necropys
Rose Marie Zizzo's kitty died of F.I.P. & wants her money back totaling $1,537.00, NOT a replacement!
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I paid $450.00 to Melaine Lowry of Lollimops Cattery
I gave $40.00 to a friend of mine to drive me to Escondido
I paid $45.00 for worming & exam at Petco vet said looks like FIP
I paid $125.00 for vitamins, herbs, digestive enzymes, collostrom, etc.
I paid $250.00 in x-rays & feline blood panel at City Animal Hospital.
I paid $50.00 to Homeopath Vet in NY who specializes in Feline NoSodes -
I paid $94.00 for NoSodes & Chinese Herbs & another
I paid $50.00 to FEDEX to get it to us in 1 day.
I paid $85.00 Cremation bill
Totaling $1,144.00 -
not to mention the grief, tears & hardship of taking care of a dieing pet.
Kelly Fleming's kitty died of F.I.P. she wants her money back NOT a replacement!
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I paid $100.00 to Melanie Lowry of Lollimops Cattery to hold a kitten for me
Within 8 hours I changed my mind and requested my money back, Lollimop's refused to give me my money back, nor did I get a kitten from her.
Rene & Bill Carr wants their $100.00 back. 12/19/04
Lollimop Cattery Fraudulent Business Practices
In Collusion* with Annie Westlake of Catinality Cattery
11/21/06 Lollimops Cattery in collusion to sell her hidden kittens
Lollimops has taken her kitten photos off her kitten page on Lollimops.com & now has placed them on her [2] past buyers sites Lollimops is in *collusion with:
[1 Annie Westlake who lives also in California & owns the cattery Catinality.Com
Lollimops is falsifying kittens to make this appear as if these kittens for sale, are from the Catinality site website. When in reality its Lollimops kittens for sale that fill these pages. This is how Ms Lowry decieves her potential buyers. Ms Lowry speciality is *deceit. Lollimops has also changed the backgrounds of the photos to also attempt to decieve potential buyers further.
Lollimops also is using another phone # 780-737-7411. Lollimops has made the website of her cattery pal Diane Bogart. Diane Bogar & Anne Westlake are both FIP infected, catteries. The email himalayan_kittens@yahoo.com is home page email button.
*Collusion means secret agreement or cooperation especially for an illegal or deceitful purpose.
*Deceit means mislead,cause to believe what is false,contrivance, entrap,underhanded practices,double-dealing.
11/3/06 Lollimops hiding kittens since 2005?
Lollimops has been doing this since 2005 hiding her kittens for sale in her pals website to deceive buyers not to think they are Lollimops kittens. Must Read
FRAUD The intentional use of deceit, a trick or some dishonest means to deprive another of his/her/its money, property or a legal right.
A party who has lost something due to fraud is entitled to file a lawsuit for damages against the party acting fraudulently, and the damages may include punitive damages as a punishment or public example due to the malicious nature of the fraud.
Quite often there are several persons involved in a scheme to commit fraud and each and all may be liable for the total damages.
Inherent in fraud is an unjust advantage over another which injures that person or entity.
It includes failing to point out a known mistake in a contract or other writing (such as a deed), or not revealing a fact which he/she has a duty to communicate, such as a survey which shows there are only 10 acres of land being purchased and not 20 as originally understood.
Constructive Fraud: can be proved by a showing of breach of legal duty (like using the trust funds held for another in an investment in one's own business) without direct proof of fraud or fraudulent intent.
Extrinsic Fraud occurs when deceit is employed to keep someone from exercising a right, such as a fair trial, by hiding evidence or misleading the opposing party in a lawsuit.
Since fraud is intended to employ dishonesty to deprive another of money, property or a right, it can also be a crime for which the fraudulent person(s) can be charged, tried and convicted.
Borderline Overreaching or taking advantage of another's naiveté involving smaller amounts is often overlooked by law enforcement, which suggests the victim seek a "civil remedy" (i.e., sue).
However, increasingly fraud, which has victimized a large segment of the public (even in individually small amounts), has become the target of consumer fraud divisions in the offices of district attorneys and attorneys general.
exemplary damages extrinsic fraud fraud in the inducement fraudulent conveyance intrinsic fraud
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Melanie Lowry of Lollimops Cattery committs fraud every single time she keep a deposit and does not return it to her buyer.
That also goes for any other cat breeder that practices dishonest business, of not returning their buyers deposit money back
Her very own sales contract is against the law, of doing honest business in America. Melanie Lowry is making all cat breeders everywhere look bad.
Read what an EXPERT in Business Law & Ethics had to say about how Melanie Lowry conducts her fraud.
To read all about Melanie Lowry sho is the town crier please read the whole entire story of what she does to buyers and her poor cats
http://lollimops-himalayan-cattery.info
http://catinality-cattery.info
Also read all her complaints about Melanie Lowry on the FIP Menu and complaint page on http://cat-breeders-complaints.info/bad-cat-breeders2.html
Melanie,
I purchased a kitten from you awhile back and I have been more than satisfied. I did a google search on your business and found several websites popup with complaints about you - and MOST of them are posted by the same person (Rosie) and likely her friends. The language is nonsensical and she seems disturbed and obsessed with ruining you. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this b.s. I hope you win your lawsuits against her and she is made to pay you a significant sum. Best of Luck.
Regards,
Seth
Annie Westlake of Catinallity Cattery use to be Melanie Lowry of Lollimops Cattery . She changed her name and cattery name not to be known. Melanie Lowry gave up her reputation as not to satisfy one client by giving her money back. A kitten she sold died of FIP. Does that make sence to destroy your own repuation just not to satisfy one client.? Something must be very wrong with this person Melanie Lowry to allow herself to be thrown to the dogs like this.